Up until my time at Culver High I didn’t socialize much and certainly not with girls. I felt I was too busy and that I had to stay focused on my school work, working at the restaurant, and volunteering on political causes to socialize much. There were also at that time no girls in my political circle. Actually, there was one and we were close friends for awhile but then she dated a few of the guys which I didn’t like and eventually dropped out of the political group. My heart would go pitter pat when she was near and I was very unhappy for a bit when that attempt at romance fizzled out. Eventually I recovered and regained my political focus and got involved with two redheaded best friends. They were involved in the off-campus politics I was into like the UFW, student politics, civil rights and efforts against the war. That was a very confusing busy time for me as I added dating to a very full schedule. I did not treat them the way they deserved to be treated because even when I showed care and concern for them they remained near the bottom of my cares and concerns. It took many years for me to learn that people came first, that everything else would be a slow fixit.
And then I met Toni. There was something about her that made me think of her much of the time. She was sexually active and my adventures with the redheads was all mixed up. I was scared of Toni and wanted to hold her in my arms and kiss her. But somehow, I knew, somehow, I felt that it would be a one-night stand for her and since I wanted a long-term romance with her my reasoning told me not to get involved with her unless I was sure it would be something more.
During this time my grades dropped for the first time and I was about a 3.3 but I didn’t care. I had politics and work and my family, and now girls.